Wednesday, August 27, 2014

8 Times You Definitely Shouldn't Feel Guilty About Saying No

8 Times You Definitely Shouldn't Feel Guilty About Saying No

Enough with those obligatory dinners/likes/shots already!

Let’s take a minute to go through a typical day in the life of you: You probably have a fulfilling but stressful job where you answer to some sort of boss, as well as lots of friends who want you to go to all of their openings and celebrations and things. Perhaps you have a partner, too, whom you love more than anything, and an amazing family to boot. All wonderful, but they can get in the way of something. Yep: you time. It can be very limited—especially if you find yourself doing things not because you want to, but because others want you to or you’d feel bad if you didn’t. The irony? You'll actually feel a lot better when you step off the life treadmill for a bit and take time to do you. Your mission: Do not ever feel guilty for saying no in the following situations:

Turning down more work/a freelance project when you’re already crazy-busy. Truth: You’d probably rush through it and therefore do a bad job, and your boss would have to re-do it anyway. Why create more hassle for both parties?

Telling your lazy best friend that you don’t have time to help her start a virtual cat-sitting company. It’s a good idea in theory, but you know her M.O. far too well: She’s never finished a project a day in her life. What makes you think she’d get organized now? Pass.

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Not diving into that chocolate cake after dinner. Girl, if you have the willpower to resist the temptation, more power to you. Props.

Going to the gym after work instead of happy hour with your co-workers. It’s fine to work on your six-pack instead of drinking one. And if you come down with a serious case of happy hour FOMO, there’s always next week’s gathering.

Declining your boyfriend’s invite to watch “the game” with his friends. Okay, it’s super-cute that he asked you along. Fine. But be honest with yourself: Do you really want to go? If the answer is no, then don't.

Passing on sex. Sometimes you’re just not in the mood. Don’t overthink it…you’re not a machine, and there’s always tomorrow (or, um, a couple hours later).

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Not spooning for the entire night. Again with the sex talk, but this one’s a biggie! Spooning is romantic…for about half an hour. Then it just gets sweaty, squishy, and borderline claustrophobic. It’s totally fine to get some fresh air and separate.

RSVP’ing “no” to your friend’s bachelorette party. Look, the wedding itself is already setting you back 500 bucks—and you have three other weddings this fall, too. Your friend will understand, especially since you’ll be there for the important part. And if she doesn’t? Oh, heeey, Bridezilla! Eff that.

Not liking your best friend's lame Instagram picture of her toes. Okay, first of all, she cut off two of her toes—so you can only see eight of them. Also, the entire pic is majorly crooked. Just because she's your BFF doesn't mean you have to support sub-par photography!  

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