Photo credit: Michael Desmond/SHOWTIME More than 50 years later, their voyeuristic research is as relevant as ever. Here are four enduring lessons from Masters and Johnson that you can still use in between the sheets:
1. Make it Last
Sex is better when it’s enjoyed by both partners—duh! But if your typical lovemaking happens to be more of a sprint than a marathon, practice to steady the pace. Masters and Johnson swore by the “stop-and-start” method—an exercise that suggests you manually stimulate your penis to a point near ejaculation, then cease activity until the sensation subsides. This coital hokey-pokey trains men to have control over their ejaculatory reflex during arousal. You can practice the “stop-and-start” on your own, or ask your lady friend for a hand. You should see the benefits after 2 to 3 days of practice. Next stop: O-town.
2. Find Pleasure Elsewhere
You might consider yourself a superstar in the sack. But research in the Journal of Psychology shows that people tend to overestimate their sexual competency, viewing themselves as more skilled in the bedroom compared to others—including their partner. To make sure you live up to your sexual ideal, try sensate therapy. Masters and Johnson introduced this practice as a way for couples to tune into each other’s bodies and build an emotional connection. How to do it: Zero in on your partner’s sensitive areas while caressing everything but the goods. “By focusing on sexual pleasure that stems from the stimulation of the entire body, you’ll de-emphasize the importance of orgasm as the sole purpose of lovemaking,” says James Beggan, Ph.D., of the University of Louisville.
3. Keep Her Going
Women can reach orgasm again . . . and again . . . and again. Those ladies with Energizer-Bunny capabilities actually find that their second and third orgasms grow in intensity. Men, on the other hand, need to recharge their batteries. Masters and Johnson call this rebooting time—a refractory period—and it can last between 10 minutes and 24 hours. “One argument about why the refractory period exists is to prevent men from interfering with their own sperm from fertilizing the egg,” Beggan says. To help reach her fullest firework potential, talk about what she likes and doesn’t like, and don’t be shy to explore mechanical aids, Beggan adds. (According to research in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 69 percent of women feel comfortable using a vibrator with their partner). Know this: Masters and Johnson also showed that clitoral and vaginal orgasms are equally satisfying, meaning she’ll like whichever road you take.
4. Have Prenatal Pleasures
You don’t have to go through a dry spell when she’s got a bun in the oven. In fact, Masters and Johnson reported that pregnant women want more action, especially during the first two trimesters. And no, doing the deed won’t injure your partner or the baby. “Men think their penis is actually larger than it is,” says Shawn Tassone, M.D., an Austin-based OBGYN. “In order to truly hurt a woman, or the baby, the penis would need to be of mythical proportions.” Even a Ron Jeremy-sized member can’t penetrate the cervix and poke the fetus on the head. You can stay busy up until her water breaks, as long as it’s a risk-free pregnancy.
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