As much as your boyfriend may adore you, he might not feel the same about your closest female confidante. If you frequently find yourself channeling your inner Dr. Phil to mediate between the two, it's time to get to the bottom of the problem. How could the love of your life dislike your best friend so much? Here are the most likely possibilities, according to some of my own personal experiences as a dude who's done his fair share of dating:
She's Sabotaging Our Relationship
I once had an ex-girlfriend who happened to live with a close friend we'll call "Jane." Perhaps I could be blamed for initiating the rift with Jane by peeing with the bathroom door open at their shared apartment one evening, but I felt that her dramatic response—a tirade about my lack of manners and compatibility with my girlfriend who could apparently "do so much better"—was hurtful and uncalled for. It's not like I didn't put the seat down afterward…
She's Jealous of Our Alone Time
Perhaps your boyfriend's aversion is rooted in the fact that your friend seems jealous of the amount of time your guy gets to spend with you. A buddy of mine would overhear tearful phone conversations between his girlfriend and her childhood chum, who began to complain more and more about not being able to see her bestie anymore. Eventually the pressure got so bad that he stopped seeing his lady, fearing he'd be hacked up into bits by her possessive pal.
She's Driving You Crazy
Finally, it's not uncommon for a guy to become frustrated by a seemingly fickle friendship. Another of my ex-paramours had a new opinion of her so-called best friend each time we'd hang: one week she was "such a bitch." The next, she couldn't live without her. I would've loved to cure my girlfriend of her obsession with the abusive relationship, but unable to do so, I settled for simply hating her friend.
...But There Is Hope!
Just because a man can't stand the Kimmy Gibbler to your DJ Tanner doesn't mean that the relationship is necessarily doomed. Sit down with your boyfriend and your friend individually to hear out both of their perspectives, and then establish boundaries with each of them. Your boyfriend may never understand the complexities of female friendships, but any guy worth dating should be able to respect your previously standing allegiance as long as you make an effort to address the issue. With a little bit of communication, nearly any pair can be made to get along! Or at the very least, be saved from murdering one another.
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