The one thing harder than actually splitting up with your partner might be having the realization that your relationship has taken a turn for the worse and it's time to get out. And that seems to be what happened to Jennifer Lopez, according to reports of her new memoir True Love.
"As I sat there getting made up, my heart was beating out of my chest and I felt like I couldn't breathe. … I became consumed with anxiety," Jennifer writes in her upcoming book, reports E! Online. "What was happening to me? I leaped from my chair and said to my dear manager Benny Medina, 'Benny, something is happening! I feel like I'm going crazy."
She continues, "It was one of those moments when you're so scared you can't even scream. In a blur of fear and panic, I looked at Benny and my mother and blurted out the words: 'I don't think I can be with Marc anymore.' Then I burst into tears."
Panic attacks can be terrifying, and it sounds like this one was brought on by realizing that she wasn't happy in her relationship. She goes on to write that her life may have seemed perfect on the outside, but her bond was actually suffering:
"What people didn't know was that life really wasn't that good. My relationship was falling apart, and I was terrified," she writes.
Although making the difficult decision to walk away from a failing marriage must have been heartbreaking, we give major kudos to Jennifer for doing what her gut was telling her to do. In fact, one study found that gut feelings are better at predicting happiness in your relationship than self-reported satisfaction.
In a recent interview with People, Jennifer talks about how she recovered from the experience and what she gained from it:
"I had to learn to take care of myself and know my worth. When things are not working out and you're not being treated in a way that you want to be treated, you have to look at that because it's nobody's fault but yours. You have to take control, and you have to set up your own boundaries. You have the power to change it."
Yes, this! Standing up for your needs and not settling for a crappy relationship is a lesson that often comes from experience, but it's a valuable one that can shape the rest of your love life. You should never let relationship FOMO, or fear of being single, keep you from moving on from a toxic situation. And if you ever need a boost, just channel the awesome strength and confidence that J Lo continues to radiate!
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