Let's debunk one huge myth about your love life: Dating isn't just for singles. Getting dressed up, going out, and maybe hooking up afterward should be a crucial part of any relationship—whether it's just beginning or you've celebrated a few decades worth of wedded bliss. Of course, the context of those dates will probably change a little (or a lot) over time. Let us explain:
Planning the date when you’re single: You've got some ideas, and they are hot. HOT IDEAS. What about that new movie with Ryan Gosling? Oh wait, he just wants to grab a drink. Okay, well you'll suggest that place that has delicious martinis and those couches that are perfect for talking closely (note to self: Do not explain it that way).
Planning the date when you’re married: Well, you chose that gastropub last week so it is definitely his turn to pick. Ah, but you know he wants to see that stupid '80s band you hate. He knows you know. He asks for your input…you will not be tricked this time! Prepare to yell "SUSHI?" really loudly if he starts to suggest the concert…
Getting ready for the date when you're single: The anticipation! The preparation! The strategizing! You blow off your bootcamp class because you desperately need to do…something…with your hair. Should you buy a new dress? No, that's overkill, right?
Getting ready for the date when you’re married: You're slightly less worried about making a good first impression because, well, you've seen each other naked over a hundred times. You need to shave your legs, but he's using the bathroom. Dude, how is he still using the bathroom? Anyone who thinks women take longer to get ready is lying.
Getting to the date when you're single: You arrive alone, feeling nervous and confident—and wearing impractical, painful shoes.
Getting to the date when you're married: Wait, the date starts on the way there—because you're already together. Longer date, FTW! That song you both secretly loved four years ago comes on the radio, and you joke about how lame it was. You rock out to it anyway.
Flirting on a date when you're single: Hahahaha! Is he hilarious? Have you ever met someone so charming and original?! You wait until he's sufficiently smitten by your banter to bust out your patented, oh-so-casual wrist brush. Wait, did he even notice? Maybe you should subtly touch his leg with your leg.
Flirting on a date when you're married: Damn does he look hot in those new jeans you bought him earlier this week! Better tell him how great his butt looks in them. Think anyone would notice if you just slid your foot up his leg like this…? Ooh, he definitely noticed—whoops, and so did the woman next to you. ABORT!
Deciding what to order on the date when you're single: What menu? Oh, sorry! We got so distracted, we forgot we were even in a restaurant!
Deciding what to order on the date when you're married: Okay, so you both kind of want the special but you have an unwritten rule that you can't order the same thing, ever, because where's the fun in that? So, you'll make a sacrifice and order pasta, knowing that this means he will have to defer to your dessert choice. Yay!
The goodnight part of the date when you're single: To kiss or not to kiss? He looks like he would be a fan-freaking-tastic kisser, and his eyes are kind of making you melt. You lean in a little bit closer and—come on, he even smells amazing! Okay, you're going for it!
The goodnight part of the date when you're married: Guess who doesn't have to say goodnight to each other after the date ends? THESE PEOPLE. You can be as sappy and adorable as you want, or you can be like "Yeah, actually, we gotta head back—Scandal is coming on soon." They love and understand you enough to be cool with both.
The hookup after the date when you're single: Okay, you don't usually do this, but the sparks have been majorly flying, and the conversation has been flowing. And the chemistry? IT'S SO THERE. And you're only a block away from your apartment, and your roommate's out of town, and…yep, your pants are off. Fingers crossed he knows what he's doing.
The hookup after the date when you're married: Ah, yes, this is the part where you jump right into bed without even thinking about a condom because YOU DON'T HAVE TO. WOOT! And though sometimes you might envy your single girlfriends in the heat of a new romance, it's nice to know you don't have to wonder if he's good in bed because you KNOW he is. Now, let's get this party started.
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