Going for gold may have benefits in the bedroom: Well-educated, wealthy women claim to have better sex than those of a lower socioeconomic status, according to a new Spanish study.
The reason: "The higher education gives them a greater awareness of their own needs and a greater ability to develop their sexuality," says lead researcher Dolores Ruiz, Ph.D. And wealth can give women access to more resources that can improve their sex lives, she says.
You might not have a six-figure salary, but that doesn't mean you can't pull a 10. Snag a self-sufficient seductress by using this cheat sheet:
Fish in the Right Pond
Chances are you're not going to find this gem at your local dive bar. You need to think classy--i.e. lounges, hotel bars, and philanthropy events, says Adam LaDolce, dating coach and founder of GoTalkToHer.com. If you aren't sure what to talk about in this type of environment, warm up by opening with a question about anyth ing you can see, hear, taste, touch, or smell in the environment, says Tracey Steinberg, a New York City-based dating coach. Whatever you do, just skip the cliché pickup lines.
Nail the Conversation
Don't go overboard when you talk about what you do. "Men often become aggressive or competitive when their female partners are âsuperior' in any arena," notes Simone Kornfeld, an NYC-based psychotherapist. Instead, inquire about her interests, like her favorite music, movies, books. If she mentions a novelist you've never heard of, instead of clamming up, ask about why she loves their work, Kornfeld advises. Allowing her to show you new things communicates your confidence and inner security.
Don't Overdo Date #2
Just because she has a lot of money doesn't mean that it's the only thing she values. So don't assume that buying her dinner at the hottest restaurant in town will impress her. Instead, keep the date simple and tailor it to something you know she'll enjoy, says Jenn Berman, host of VH1's Couples Therapy. For example, if she mentioned her favorite drink is cabernet, you're better off taking her to a wine bar for appetizers and good vino, rather than attempting to buy her approval.
Additional reporting by Madeline Haller
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