Here’s something you don’t hear everyday: Sleeping with an ex may lessen the psychological distress of the breakup, says new research from the University of Arizona.
But before you go calling up your old fling, here’s what’s going on: For those who haven’t fully accepted a split, the intimate encounters are filling a need that may lessen the pain of the separation. Read: It makes you feel better in the short-term because you’re still emotionally attached.
As a result, hitting the sack with a former lover may also interfere with “moving on” or other adjustment processes that are more important for long-term well-being, explains lead study author Ashley E. Mason.
So if you’re still feeling fragile after your last breakup, you’re best off cutting all ties and removing anything that reminds you of your ex.
“Get rid of that blanket you cuddled together under, move your bed, buy a new bedspread, and rearrange your couch and your flatscreen so the familiar look of your living room doesn’t stir up old memories,” says Melysha Acharya, founder of BrokenHeartedGirl.com and author of The Breakup Workbook for Men.
Additional reporting by Denny Watkins
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